Momma Gets a Whoppin’
February 22nd, 2008 by RachelI read the book, The Five Love Languages a long time ago, (have not read the children’s version) but I think that Josiah is a huge “words of affirmation” kid, as most kids are. At the park, he tells me to sit on the bench and watch him slide. After sliding, if I don’t say it, he says, “Great job!” and comes and give me high fives. He loves being praised for things and will do so much if you just give him lots of affirmation afterward. He also reacts very strongly to harsh words spoken in anger and impatience. One harsh word and he’s crying for ten minutes, which is good because I get disciplined when I speak harshly!
Long story, but we were at this new, indoor, moon-bounce place last week, and I was grumbling in my head about how my child is the only one who needs me to watch him constantly while he plays in those things–not because he acts out (sometimes he does), but because he wants me to cheer for him, to watch him go down all the slides and tell him what a great job he did when he gets done. All the other moms were sitting on benches and talking together. (Insert pouting face.)
Then I got to talking with one of the 18-year-olds that “supervise” the kids on the bounce things. We were chatting about how sometimes day cares bring classes of kids there and how crazy it is for her (and anyone else who comes) on those days. She was saying that the most annoying thing about it is that all these kids will come up to her and ask her to pretend to be their mom, stand at the entrance/windows to the bounces and say, “Great job so-and-so.” She said it happens constantly when those groups are there, and it’s not just a kid here and there. Hearing that really broke my heart and snapped be back to reality. My role, as unglamorous as it seems sometimes, is a mom to a two-year-old who needs verbal affirmation, and I get the privilege of being my son’s cheerleader, and that’s the perfect place for me!















